One can heal by accepting the wound or injury first!! Not By denying it.  After accepting it, a decision can be made about the method of treatment i.e. First aid or an Expert consultation.  This procedure is considered as “NORMAL” when it comes to Physical wounds however it is not the same with Emotional Bleeding.

Keep in mind this analogy, it will help you understand!!

What is Emotional Bleeding? Why is it important to understand? How does it happen? How to Heal?

Let’s consider these stories first!!

  1. Ravi had finally accepted a friend’s repeated invitations to enter a short story in a writing contest. He was sure the judges would reject his work, even though he was a successful newspaper journalist. To his astonishment, he won. For Ravi, this stirred up painful memories of all the times in childhood.
  2. Priya always felt anxious when approaching her mother. Would her mother push her away, or would she be interested and engaged? Priya told me, “I had to read her moods constantly. If she seemed negative, I would keep my distance. But if she was in a good mood, I could talk to her. She had the power to make me happy, and I tried my best to win her approval.” As a child, Priya often worried that she had caused her mother’s negative mood changes. Feeling responsible, Priya came to the conclusion I must be flawed.
  3. I (Neha) don’t know what it will take for me to finally feel good about myself. I keep thinking I need to do more, achieve more, be a better person, and then I’ll like myself. Other people are impressed with how much I’ve achieved in my life, but it doesn’t seem to matter how much I do; I’m never good enough for me.

     

    What is common in them? Where is it coming From?

FACTS!!

1. Every Adult Was Once a Child.
2. Time doesn’t heal all wounds.
3. Body remembers and tells the tale.
4. Your biography becomes your biology.
5. All the wounds have their roots in Childhood.
6. Identity formed based on the dependency of approval by others.

Emotional Bleeding & Healing

“SELF” Includes:

1. Self Esteem
2. Self Respect
3. Self Images
4. Self Beliefs
5. Self Confidence

The reason which causes “SELF” to Bleed: Emotional Abuse .
Emotional injury cause “Self” to bleed and these injuries are caused by Emotional abuses Received or done. 
Forms of Emotional Abuses
  • Rejecting—behaviors that communicate or constitute abandonment of the child, such as a refusal to show affection.
  • Isolating—preventing the child from participating in normal opportunities for social interaction.
  • Terrorizing—threatening the child with severe or sinister punishment, or deliberately developing a climate of fear or threat.
  • Ignoring—where the caregiver is psychologically unavailable to the child and fails to respond to the child’s behavior.
  • Corrupting—caregiver behavior that encourages the child to develop false social values that reinforce antisocial or deviant behavioral patterns such as aggression, criminal acts, or substance abuse.
Prerequisites of Healing
  • Acknowledge and accept your emotional wounds.
  • Understand that healing is an ongoing process.
  • It is a choice like suffering is.
  • Constant efforts and assistance.
  • You can start from where you are.
  • It requires determination.
  • It is an unlearning and re-learning process.
Process of Healing
  • Healing is De-attach emotions with memories.
  • Healthy Boundaries.
  • Set up a routine of self-care.
  • Forgiveness.
  • Breathing exercises.
  • Develop a habit to check in with feelings.
  • Focus on the heart instead of the brain.
  • Consult an expert.

Feel Free to connect and Discuss!!

Nidhi